What do you tell your boss when he/she asks you to do something that goes against everything that you believe in. i am not talking about sexual harrassment because that is easy(you tell him tomanyira…and bambi i won’t quit just because you are stray. oswadde!) but you know, things like he wants you to do the dirty work for him/her. say bribe someone so you can get work done. you know that you can get that work done even without having to bribe someone although it might take you longer and the boss needs it done now so the boss insists that the solution is bribery.
or, say if you and your boss sell tomatoes. yes. tomatoes. and then a particular customer asks for say 20 tomatoes and you have only 12. so the boss says, ” we don’t have those other tomatoes but we have some bad tomatoes-although they are not rotting yet, that we can mix in and they will never know.”…ofcourse they will know. they are going to use the damn tomatoes!…and really, do you know how infuriating that is when it is done to you?…so what do you tell your boss….no, i won’t?
…and then, when i was writing this post, i glanced over at today’s New Vision…and this is the screwed up country in which we live! read this story: http://newvision.co.ug/D/8/26/678908
or if link is giving you a hard time, let me just copy and paste for you.
Molested boy expelled from school, culprit out on bail
By Gladys Kalibbala
Nnalongo (real name withheld), a resident in Lunnyo village, Entebbe Municipality is in a dilemma after her son was sodomised and later expelled from school.
The widow, a mother of seven children, says she is devastated after the ‘double torture’ to her son.
“Before my boy has recovered from the trauma of being sodomised, we find he has nowhere to study from,” she wails.
She narrates that she fainted immediately after making an alarm which attracted a big crowd.
She could not stand the shock of watching a trusted family friend sucking the private parts of her 12-year-old son.
Her children called him ‘uncle’ because of his close relationship to Nnalongo. The incident happened next door to Nnalongo’s home in Herman Kalule’s hair salon. Kalule is the area LC1 youth secretary.
“What Kalule did was terrible,” she says. She adds that according to Deutronomy Chapter 28, a man who engages in a sexual relationship with a fellow man is cursed in the eyes of the Lord.
“I have to pray and fast intensively and beg the Almighty Lord to lift that curse off my dear son,” she says while sobbing.
On the fateful day, Nnalongo was picked from Nakiwogo landing site where she works, as one of her daughters studying in Kampala was seriously sick.
However, her plans changed when she got home and found one of her sons missing.
On inquiry, she was told he was seen with Kalule at the salon. She rushed there to let him know about the sick girl. When she got there, the door was closed and there was music playing. She panicked and kicked the door open.
“Oh! I don’t want to remember how Kalule was sucking the tip of my son’s penis,” she says.
Nnalongo reported the matter to the Police, but when Kalule was taken to court, he was bailed out. Over the Easter weekend, he invaded her home, but she was not home, so he insulted her children.
A lady passing by says she heard Kalule calling the children’s mother a poor woman. The witness says Kalule said it would be impossible for him to stay in jail because he has enough money to bail him out.
To add insult to injury, Nnalongo received a letter from the school, advising her to take her son elsewhere as the administration feared that their reputation might be tarnished because of the boy.
“This boy may have already gone deep into the homosexual behaviour and end up spoiling other children in the school,” commented a teacher.
Nnalongo says since she has meagre resources, her son has been sponsored by friends who will not be happy and may stop giving them money if she does not produce a school report for this term.
Meanwhile, Kajumba Mayanja, a psychologist from Makerere University, advises that the boy is young and still traumatised from the incident and needs total support from his school and family.
“This is a situation where the school should work hand-in-hand with the parents to see that legal action is taken against whoever molested the boy instead of punishing him for a crime he cannot understand,” he explains.
Kajumba cautions the public to stop regarding such minors as culprits in cases of defilement or sodomy because they are too young to make a concession regarding their behaviour.
He advises parents to show love and not punish the boy because he needs a lot of comfort at the moment as he may have either been influenced by the man who is much older than him or even forced into this. Kalule is suspected to be in his 30s.
“The young boy needs urgent care of a psychologist or counsellor to help him overcome the situation.There is also a need to see that he is helped to overcome the homosexual influence,” he said.
Repeat offender
Nnalongo, a born-again Christian, confesses that like many other people in Lunnyo, she has heard rumours about Kalule’s homosexuality.
Little did she know that he even involves children as young as her son.
Nnalongo took her son for a medical check-up at Entebbe Hospital and the results showed that the boy had ever been penetrated, which brings her to the conclusion that this was not the first time.
She recalls that sometime last year, her daughter used to complain that her brother’s underwear was always soiled.
She had also seen the soiled underwear and ordered the boy to wash them.
In the same area, a 17-year-old boy confessed that Kalule, who was a friend of his family, started sexually abusing him from the age of six to 13.
He broke off the relationship after his 10-year-old friend who was also pursued by Kalule, shared his dilemma with him.
The other boy says he refused to accept Kalule’s advances, although he still fears to tell his parents.
A survey among the residents in the area revealed that many women who had found out what their sons had gone through just kept quiet, saying they never wanted their children to be embarrassed.
One lady narrates how a few years ago, Kalule was caught with a boy when he was working in Nzabanita’s Salon around the former Entebbe bus park.
It is alleged that Kalule went into hiding when the father of the boy, an army man, started looking for him.
After the fury ebbed, Kalule returned and has been working in his salon at Lunnyo for about four years.
The residents say the salon is usually occupied by young boys, including those whom Kalule pays school fees for.
